So let’s get started from the beginning. My name is Amanda. My husband and I have known each other since we were 5. Kind of a funny story, he married young. I also married young. Neither of which worked out. My 12 year marriage ended. So I did what I thought was the only option… Move back home where I felt safe. OK so fast forward a little bit my husband and I ran into one another long story short weoved in together. He asked me to marry him. I was so happy. I finally found my happy ever after.
OK so Scott and I decided that we were ready to start trying to have a baby. We tried and tried for 2 years. So I gave in and went to see my obgyn. He was so amazing. Very blunt and straight to the point. Dr. Cohen was and still is a doctor I wish I still had. OK so Dr Cohen ordered alot of blood work etc etc. Came back that I had to be referred to see a fertility doctor. Now all the while I found out that I had hypothyroidism. Which is controlled by meds. So we make an appointment and go meet with the fertility doctor in Syracuse NY. They did blood work upon blood work. Tests and a crap load of stuff. We were very optimistic. So we made a follow up appointment. Went back and that is when I found out that I have PCOS. I was shocked, scared, feeling very heat up and broken. In my mind I was thinking that the one thing I thought I could give my husband I was now told that it’s going to be alot harder. So they gave us options. I did a round of medication and a shot and next thing we knew WE WERE PREGNANT!! Oh my God we were so excited. But I didn’t want to get completely excited until we were 100% positive.
OK so things are going fine. A little morning sickness, nothing major. For the first time in my life I can honestly say I was so looking forward to everything. We were very scared to tell anyone. But we slowly started telling people. The first ultrasound we had where I heard his heartbeat I couldn’t help but cry. That’s our baby. As weeks went by we got to see our little man. And we found out that we were having a Lil boy. He was definitely a little fire cracker. Always letting me know if I ate something he didn’t like. He was so active.
June 11th, 2013 I went to work like normal. I was a bus aid for special needs children. Came home after my morning run and went to the bathroom and just felt like something was wrong. So I called Dr Cohen and his nurse called me right back and told me to get to the office immediately. I was scared I ain’t gonna lie. He did his exam and told me that I wasn’t going home and he was admitting me. I was on complete bedrest. Definitely wasn’t fun. Dr Cohen was going back home for the weekend and told me that I was to chill and relax and to jotnhave this baby while he was gone. Needless to say that didn’t happen. Our little man wanted to make his presence known. He was born June 14th, 2013 at 3:09am. Scott Michael was so tiny. He only weighed 1 lb 2oz. The NICU doctor from Syracuse told us that the chance of our son living was probably not good. The nurse came back in asked us if we wanted to hold him…
Every woman wants the first time holding their newborn baby to be a whole bunch of emotions. We got to spend 4 hours with him. He passed away in my husband’s arms. I was so angry.
Why me? Why us? What did we do to deserve this much pain?
Have you ever had to get released from the hospital after having a baby. To go plan a funeral and calling hours for your son. I couldn’t handle it. I still can’t handle it. I have been a bundle full of a mess since all this.